One thing that I struggle with is my fear about how other people see me. I limit myself from doing things because I fear judgment. If I were to go to a restaurant and eat a meal alone by myself and show myself that people don’t care if I’m alone at a restaurant or my nerves I would not be afraid of doing things and see the world differently and in a new light.
Scenario: John and Emily are high school students who want to get good grades, maintain active social lives, and participate in sports. John is a linebacker on the football team, and Emily is a defender on the soccer team. Their busy lives prevent them from spending much time on their homework, and they both have been averaging Cs with an occasional D on their work in English class. The end of the semester is drawing near, and a major ﬁnal project and test are looming. They both think they will pull oﬀ at least a B in the course by doing well on these ﬁnal activities. However, both the football and soccer teams have qualiﬁed for post-season games, and both John and Emily are on the decorating committee for a major end-of-year dance which they will attend. Secretly they both want to be selected as King and Queen for the dance, so they have been spending extra time socializing with other students after practice in the evenings.
Questions for response:
1. Do you think that John and Emily are deceiving themselves about being able to do well in their English class?
- Yes, I think that John and Emily are clouding their school studies and productivity of work with their social lives and extracurricular activities. But I believe that they can make a change if they wanted to, they just need to try harder.
2. What do you think might be the result of the schedule they are following?
- If they continue with their study habits they may fail English and become a year behind and need to retake the course, because english is a mandatory course.
3. If they don’t do well in their English work, will they blame others or themselves?
- They will probably blame themselves because they are the only ones who can change their grades and they need to put forth the effort to create change in academics rather than focusing on social statuses.
4. What, if anything, might you do differently if you were in their place?
- If I were in their position I would probably talk to my teacher to find extra projects and ways to bring up my grade, I would also make schoolwork my first priority, sports my second, and socializing my third. School and sports are things that can reward your future with scholarships and good grades.