“Forgiveness is the intentional and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding an offence, lets go of negative emotions such as vengefulness, with an increased ability to wish the offender well.”

This definition is telling me that I am not a forgiving person.

But vengefulness is not a part of me either.

I can forgive someone for doing nearly anything, but wishing them well is far beyond me. I understand forgiving someone that hurt one of my loved ones, and then moving on from the past. Continuing to live in the past is, to me, a dangerous thing to do. You can get stuck, metaphorically speaking, in the past if you stay there long enough. Your brain will only think about that one horrible accident with your loved one and the offender, causing you to change, and not for the better. It’s just better to move on.

Forgiveness is one thing. Wishing the person that possibly destroyed your life well, is a completely different story.