I believe in forgiving those who have hurt me in the past but the question is… can I truly forgive them and move on? After watching “Walking After Midnight” I have been trying to put myself in Karen’s shoes… if someone had killed my husband or anyone close to me for that matter, I don’t think I could be as calm as she was in that situation, even if they were intoxicated and didn’t have any intention to hurt anyone, they still took away someone’s life and I don’t think I would be able to be or work around the guy who took the person I loved, it would be too hard. For me, when people hurt me, I am capable to forgive them but I never forget what they’ve done because if they’ve already hurt me once, they are just as capable to hurt me again. Forgiving does give me peace, knowing that I am able to be the better person and let myself move forward with my life instead of turning back against my future and holding on to my past is the next step to happiness for me, I can feel free with myself. I am not one to hold a grudge so being able to truly forgive and let go of the problem gives me peace. If the tables were turned and I were to hurt someone, I would do everything in my power to make things right, although I would understand if they couldn’t find it in their heart to forgive me as everyone has different opinions on forgiveness and what it means to them. Forgiving someone does not only benefit them but it helps you to move forward with your life, to keep walking forward and leave the problem behind, holding on to something that happened in the past is only going to continue to hurt you.
Hanna – some great insights. I like how you reflected on being the one to be forgiven, and how you would try to make amends.