Nature vs. Nurture
I Stand Here Ironing
There are several points that Tillie Olsen was trying to get across, the biggest one is the difference between nature and nurture. Nature meaning where you come from like genes and what you are born into and nurture meaning how you are brought up and the environment you live in. In the story “I Stand Here Ironing” by Tillie Olsen, there are many crucial points she makes to indicate she thinks nurture rules out nature. One example that shows no nurture is when the mother goes back to work and for daycare sends Emily (the daughter) to the woman downstairs. Little does she know this woman is abusive and has no care for little Emily what so ever. If this mother didn’t send her daughter downstairs she probably would not have had such bad examples set and a horrific up bringing just as a small child. That’s when nurture takes over because it was her mother choice not send Emily downstairs, it was lack of care and knowledge. Another deciding point in the book is when the mother eventually got a new boyfriend. She would always leave Emily home alone while she went out and did who knows what. This took a big effect on Emily because she was always left to make her own food and do all the house chores at just such a young age, she was always left wondering when her mother would return. Doing this to her at such a young age distances her from her mother and trust and love is put in jeopardy. Therefore, the nurture her mother is attempting to provide her daughter is not correct and will ruin her relationship with Emily. When Emily’s mother has more children, the nurture is not shared equally. Emily never got the same love when she was a child and now is just getting worse. She never wants to be home and is rebelling against her mom. If Emily’s mother was just a little more loving and caring for Emily as she is with the new baby maybe Emily’s life would look different.
In my personal opinion, I agree with Tillie Olsen, nurture does overpower nature in some ways but not all. Yes, I agree that if you are born into a great home but your parents don’t treat you well it will take a great toll on your look and way of life. I think that no one is born a murder but anyone can commit one, it depends on the way your family nurtures you. I also think that there is a great mental factor that takes place as well. You could be born with a sickness like Schizophrenia, where you have a voice in your head that tells you what to do and that’s all through nature that a murderer could come.
When the point nature vs. nurture comes up, the book “I Stand Here Ironing” is portraying that nurture over rules nature. But in my personal opinion it really does matter what the situation is to take that into consideration, it just so happened that this story had nurture that was the more important factor.