Letting go, letting go of the thoughts of what life could be like if that person you lost was still around. not having closure, and not forgiving. The video (Walking After midnight) proves that there are two different ways to treat a situation where it’s very hard to forgive what someone else has done. In the video, the victim’s wife told the story of how her husband was murdered.
Her husband and some of his friends went to go check on there neighbors house party, to make sure everything was under control. The husband went upstairs to check if the neighbors master bedroom was okay, and when he went up to the room, two young men where already there, and killed the husband.
But instead of the wife just filling herself with regret, she decided to use restorative justice instead. What is restorative justice? Restorative justice emphasizes repairing the harm caused by criminal behaviour. In this case, she talked to the convicted criminal, and they talked and talked, about forgiveness, and choices. Eventually, both of them did talks to elementary and middle schools about substance abuse.
I personally think that forgiveness is key to happiness and peace, because if all of your feelings of holding a grudge for someone, bottles up inside of you, and will effect your life negatively. But, if you choose to set those feelings free, you on continue on with your life, your life will still be changed, but you can continue on, never less.
I think it is very hard to forgive because if you forgive, the person who you lost is still gone, you might think that your not fighting hard enough for them, or that your going to forget them. So, it’s really fear that makes forgiving someone that hurt you, harder.