Inquiry Post #1
Inquiry questions: How does fear of rejection stop individuals from expressing their true selves? Why do some people choose to accept their fate while others try to create their own? Why are we afraid of change? How do we learn to see through another’s eyes?
Original Text: The Friday Everything Changed
The Friday Everything Changed – a fight for the right
Anne Hart’s The Friday Everything Changed is a story about a girl in a school who wonders if girls are allowed to carry the water as well as the boys. After prevailing through conflict, she changes the way girls are viewed. The presumption that girls aren’t as strong as boys is what Alma was fighting against, and that exactly what is being fought for today. The way that the boys are portrayed is how society sees gender roles; using labels for how one should act. The fear of rejection is so strong, that putting those labels aside sometimes isn’t an option. The need to belong is a basic human condition. One may fear rejection because of a low value and opinion of oneself. As a result, things that one would be ashamed of, might be hidden. Yet for Alma, the possibilities of change were greater than her fear of rejection. She boldly stepped into the unknown. As said in The Friday Everything Changed: “For a fleeting moment we had a glimpse of what life might be like” However, the girls who followed suit were also integral in creating their own fate. One person can make a difference, but the first supporter is what creates the movement, power or change. The boys on the other hand, do not want change to happen, and would do whatever it takes to keep their power. Both are fearful, but those who create their own fate, have a greater fear for the status-quo. This motivates them to make a change, despite the fear. The article The Good Wife, reveals the reality of how women were expected to behave, much like how the girls were expected to behave in the story. The boys were in power in the story, and didn’t like the girls questioning them about their role. As The Good Wife states: “Don’t ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.” These women in the article promote what society expects of them for fear of losing what they have. On the other hand, there is Andrée Geulen who defies the rules of the Nazi regime during World War II. She bravely helped Jewish children escape the certainty of concentration camps, no matter the consequences. People are hardwired to be empathetic, but Andrée took initiative to help others that were in danger. This inherent empathy is part of the human condition. Through empathy is how we learn to understand others. We need to put ourselves into their situation, to understand why and how they see the world in that way.