Life is filled with stressors, there will always be stress, it simply changes over time. Learning methods to cope with it at different stages in life is important. List 3 things that personally cause you stress in your life. Briefly explain what each thing is and why it causes you stress. Explain some positive things you can do to help yourself when you are feeling stress.
- School causes me stress because of the thought that you have to fit in with what is “normal”. For example, the way people dress or act.
- Homework causes me stress because there is so much of it and its very time consuming.
- Tests cause me stress because I always get anxious before they happen because I think that I’m going to fail.
Some ways I can deal with these stressors are by studying for tests more, doing as much homework in class as I can, and by not caring about what other people say or think about me.
How much time do you spend each day on technology for entertainment (in other words, for anything other than school/work)? What benefits do you receive from your technology use? What are it’s risks to you (social, mental/emotional, physical)? What would be the ideal amount of time for you to spend with technology? If you chose a time less than what you currently use, what will you do with your extra time? How can you increase your “real life” interactions?
I spend about 5 hours at the least on technology each day. The benefits I get are being able to communicate with my friends, and being able to relax and think about other things while I watch a video and such. The risks are that it is very easy to be addicted to it, and spending too much time on devices can change the way you are as a person. For example the way you act or treat other people. The ideal amount of time anyone should spend on a phone or laptop or TV would be at the most 2 hours, and that’s a long time. With my extra time I would go outside or hang out with my friends.
Your assignment is to identify one new strategy that you used and learned today that can be used to cope with difficult times in your life. Explain how you would use it, give a real life example. (Possible responses: Rules of Five, mediation, mindfulness, deep breathing, positive self talk)
One new strategy I would use is positive self talk. For example, if someone said something rude to me, instead of over-reacting, I would say or think to myself “its ok. There is no reason to get mad about what he/she said. Its untrue.” Also I listen to my brother talk bad about me all the time so this can help me when I feel like getting angry at him.
Think about a situation in your life, where a friend or family member may need support in an unhealthy relationship. Explain the situation briefly, identify one responsibility that you have as a good friend/partner. If the situation requires support, how and where would you access that support (Some possible responses may include: to never say anything mean about anyone online, to be kind and caring, to trust my partner, to respect my partner’s time with family and friends, to encourage my friends/partner, etc.)
Lets say one of my friends is getting bullied by someone and tells only me about it. They say that its been going on for a couple months now and they are feeling very depressed because they think what the person is saying about them is true. I feel like my responsibilities as a friend is to defend my friend if I see it happen in person. But also to report it to a counsellor. Just to make sure that someone else knows about it so they are safer. I would convince the friend to tell a counsellor before I told the counsellor.
Explain a recent situation in your life, or someone you know, where there was conflict, an opportunity for you to be and Agent of Change. Reflecting on the variety of tools provided in this lesson, describe several tools that could have been used to bring resolution to the conflict.
Some of the people I am friends with making fun of another friend I have because of the way he/she dresses. (made up)
If I were in that situation, I would feel pretty embarrassed. So since that situation would be embarrassing, I would talk to the friends making fun of the person and say “Hey. Imagine you were in that persons shoes. How would you feel?” And I would stick up for that person because I was bullied as a kid and it sucks. So I wouldn’t want anyone feeling that way because it isn’t a good feeling.
Identify one area of protective factors you could try to work on for your own resilience (better communication skills, better problem solving skills, trying to use different coping strategies, trying to be more positive, joining more extracurricular activities at school, getting to know which people in the school could support me, etc.).
Some protective factors I could work on are better communication skills and better problem solving skills because I usually don’t talk about my problems which is a problem because I keep it inside of me and then I get angry and end up yelling sometimes. That is also why I need to work on problem solving skills because yelling is not a good way to solve problems. Talking to a friend or counsellor is a good way to help with problem solving.
Think of a conversation starter you might use to talk to a friend when worried about the friend’s behaviors. Think to yourself of a statement you could use to start the conversation. For example, “I’ve noticed that you haven’t been at school a lot lately… ” or “You don’t seem like yourself lately…” When communicating with any friend that needs support for any reason, it is important to listen, be non-judgemental and let the friend know you are available to talk/help when they are ready.
A conversation starter I would use is “Hey man, I noticed that you aren’t acting the same and I wanna know what’s up. I’m always here for you and if you don’t want to tell me everything it’s ok. I just want to help you go back to the normal ‘you’.”
In the video you watched, what medical, social, emotional and economic impacts occurred because of drug addiction? What stood out to you or surprised you from what you saw? How does this change how you view drug addiction?
Medical – lots of drugs that are used for medical purposes are used for fun and recreation which I think I think is very bad because those drugs are made for the purpose of certain things, and if you don’t have that certain problem and you are taking the drug(s), it could cause negative effects.
Social/ Emotional – Most of the people in that video came from a good family who loved them and had friends who cared about them. I think that is sad that they took a turn down the wrong road. How they tried something once and couldn’t stop. Most of them never talked to their parents and friends after they started doing serious drugs.
Economic – The economic effect these people have on society are that since they are mostly all homeless, they will be doing drugs and throwing needles and such on the ground for someone to maybe step in. Also, they have made Hastings Street a dangerous place to be day or night.
What surprised me the most is how many homeless people their were. And it hasn’t really changed the way I feel about drug addiction. I still think its horrible and ugly and I feel bad for the people who are drug addicts because they can’t control themselves.
Provide a realistic example of a situation when you could possibly use a communication skill of delay, refusal or negotiation.
Someone: “Hey man, I just got a bong from one of my friends and I have some weed. You wanna get high?”
Delay – “Not right now I have a lot of homework to do and my dad will know if I come home high.”
Refusal – “Nah man I don’t feel good and I might throw up if I do smoke.”
Negotiation – “How about we go out to eat because I’m really hungry.”
Identify something new you have learned in this unit that you feel will help you when making decisions related to substance use, addictions or other related behaviours in the future. (Possible responses: consequences, understanding protective factors, realizing there are protective factors within their control that they can influence, understanding consent and how it relates to substance use, understanding how substance use can affect relationships with others, etc.)
I learned about being able to say no better and more effectively. I already knew about some of the effects of drug addiction but seeing some of the facial changes and the scars makes me stray farther from drugs all together. I would never want to look like the people in that video. I will 100% stay clear from harmful and recreational drugs in the future.